Nothing beats the anticipation of Christmas for a child. Long hours awake, dreaming of that perfect gift that you’ve spend the last few months (or maybe year) dreaming about. The one that will just set everything right in your life. You know it, it is the one that has been on your Christmas for what seems like a lifetime. It will be perfect. You’ve built it up in your mind on how it will look under the tree on Christmas morning. It will be in a tightly wrapped box about 12 by 12 with a perfectly placed box right on top. It will be right there front and center, all attention on it. The wrapping paper will be themed to the gift, you’re sure of it! And if you’re like most kids imaginations, your parents will have a spot light installed the night of Christmas Eve just to shine on this gift because it is THAT important!
Christmas morning you wake up to find the tree FILLED with gifts under the tree. But to your disappointment, no spotlight, no 12×12 box, no bow. Have your parent’s forgotten? “Surely they read the list I gave them, 18 times!” you think to yourself. You spend the next few minutes convincing yourself that Christmas must go on and maybe just maybe your parents hid the gift. Christmas continues as it does each year. Great gifts, wonderful family time and laughs abound. Just when you think it is all over your dad pulls an extra large box wrapped in newspaper from the back of the tree and hands it to you. You fake gratitude because Christmas is over and there is no way this is THE GIFT. Its not neatly wrapped, there is no bow, and this box is WAY to big. With tears in your eyes you look at your father and say, “Thank you, but I think I’ll pass on this one. I’m going to take my other new gifts and go play in my room.” And you walk out.
Now in most American households, that is not how the story would end. The parents would convince the child to open the gift even though the outside isn’t an indication of what’s inside and once the child opens the gift, he sees it IS THE GIFT he’s been longing for. It is the one he put on the list 18 times. It is the one he’s stayed awake pining for. Because after all, His Father knows his hearts desire and wants to bless his child.
Sometimes this happens in our spiritual lives too. We spend our time and energy praying for something. Maybe its a job promotion. Maybe its a loved one to come to the saving knowledge of the Lord. Maybe its just a simple prayer of a mother for her child. Whatever it is. As we spend time in prayer for it, we can easily fall into the trap of building up the gift wrap in our minds. We just know how its going to turn out. We have it all figured out.
Our loved one who is running from the Lord is going to come to us one day and say, “I think I want to go to church again, will you take me.” So they come to church with a smile on their face, the worship is on point, the message is the BEST ever and then the alter call is made. Your loved one stands with tears streaming down their face and runs full speed to the alter. At which point the lead pastor lays hands on them and they are saved, set free, and delivered from ALL that has a hold on them. They walk out a different person and begin to walk their lives perfectly as the Christian you know they are! No mistakes, no setbacks, no troubles for the rest of their lives.
Now that’s a pretty picture you just painted.
But what if their ‘come to Jesus moment’ looks more like a dark hotel room at 3 am, with a line of their next hit ready on the counter with a radio DJ saying something profound that the Lord uses to get their attention. Your loved on fights on their own for several more days, weeks, or even months and you aren’t even made aware of that initial moment until you get a phone call around 5 am from a blubbering person crying out for help. That isn’t what you envisioned. “This isn’t what you and I had planned, Lord, so surely this isn’t that!” So because it wasn’t wrapped up in a nice bow for you, you don’t help. But God just delivered this person to your doorstep and He wants to use you in their salvation and deliverance. Gift wrap doesn’t matter.
What about the old testament church? They had knowledge of a King, coming to save them. Their perception of this king was that he was going to save them from the Roman empire. He would mount up a large army and take out the Romans. What they never imagined was that he would come as a baby and he wanted to save the Romans, just as he wanted to save them.
So, what expectations have you put on the Lord? When you pray do you allow the “how” to be left up to God, or do you suppose you have the “how” figured out already. Praying with the “how” in mind isn’t allowing God to move. It is saying to God, “I know you can do this, but I’m going to do it this way, so what you have to say or do for me is irrelevant.” Did you know you are making God irrelevant in your prayers by doing this? [ouch – this one hurt me as I typed it]
Scripture says in Matthew 7:7 “keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you.” The Lord wants us to ask him for things. That much is clear. He wants to bless us with the best. He wants to make us more like himself. When we take the “how” of our prayers away from him, we are taking away His power to move on our behalf.
Are there things in your life that you have prayed for in the past and when the answer presented itself, it looked different than how you thought it would be? If you answered yes, it’s time to stop attaching the “how” to your prayers and let God do his job. He may want to use you to answer that prayer and he may not. He may just answer it in a way that you can’t even think or imagine. It may come wrapped in newspaper, but what’s inside is the best thing for you! Let the Giver be enough. Let Him be the how today! Let’s take all pre-conceived ideas off of our prayers and watch the goodness of God work!